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Godess@2011 - February 22nd, 2011 2:59 PM

I miscarried over 3 months ago now, and I feel just as down as I did when I found out I had lost my baby. I do not know what to do. All I want is to try again, but it is not an ideal time for me and my husband to be pregnant or take care of a child. I thought I was beginning to move on the last few weeks, but a few days ago it all rushed back. Every night it seems that all I can do is think about my baby and how much I would be showing by now. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. I can barely get to sleep without some sort of sleep aid because thinking about it gives me terrible dreams. I don't know what to do. I thought this wouldn't be so hard anymore but it is! All I want is to be pregnant and have a baby, but its just not a good time. I want my baby back. I want to know what he/she would have been like.

Anyone else feeling this way long after their miscarriage? Do I need to seek help?


Lora84 - February 22nd, 2011 3:09 PM

It's normal.

I remember feeling like that 3 months after my mc - worse than when it had just happened, although I had managed to get back to work pretty quick after my mc, it was just work, cry, black, bed every day for ages...

I went to the docs (didn't really want to cas I didn't want him to just put me on anti-depressants) and he said to me that I sounded like I wanted to move on but was struggling, so he told me to go away and try to take just one tiny step foward, out of it, if I still couldn't then to return within 2 weeks to see him. I did it! I remember I simply made a list of things I had to do (like life goals) and got one tiny one ticked off and started to feel a bit lifted...

You will start to feel better soon I promise, there's no time limit on grieving


cris - February 22nd, 2011 4:16 PM

Godess2011: am so sorry for your loss.. and it still is SO new- 2 months isn't like 5 years- I think what you're experiencing is totally normal. I am very sorry you're going through this. I must admit I've had a few nightmares myself- 2 in a row of a plane crashing which is exactly how I can describe what a miscarriage is like honestly and I've taken something to help me sleep the last 2 nights.. my m/c just happened. This too shall pass hun, the memory and that place in your heart will ALWAYS be there.. but give it time!!


Monic - February 22nd, 2011 4:35 PM

this is painful in your part i know.. but you have to accept the fact and continue your life. Time will heal as well :D


Steph - February 22nd, 2011 4:43 PM

this is really depressing.. and MOnic is right, time will just heal..it's difficult to accept at first but as time pass by you just notice you feel healing against this painful event.. just lose hope, and if it's not the right time for you to get pregnant for a certain reason then go for it!


Simple84 - February 22nd, 2011 4:54 PM

i'm so sorry for what happend., You have to be strong Godess2011. You should think that your not alone, in fact i wnet through this before,but nothing else to do but first is to accept.

Acceptance and forgiveness to yourself is the key of peace and healing.


Betsky - February 22nd, 2011 5:00 PM

This dreams are all because of what keep you always think, that's why you have terrible dreams. Let go of the past so that you can sleep well :D


Sydney - February 22nd, 2011 5:07 PM

my wife too lost our baby.. but time just came that she accepted it. NOw, she's 9weeks pregnant.. were so excited for it!


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