This is the question I've been dying to ask other people! My fiance and I haven't been together that long but the topic of marriage and babies came up very very quickly. Before we got together I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 3 years. She had no intention of having children, so it was agreed that if we stayed together there would be no kids and I would have to be okay with that. At the time I was fine with that because I had never pictured myself with kids, never really liked them and (being an only child) was absolutely clueless about what to do with these tiny humans! But boy has that changed!

I am now more broody than I ever imagined I could be and my fiance is even worse than me! The problem I have is that I am absolutely terrified of the whole thing. Not just pregnancy, which has always freaked me out! But because I have never been around kids I am constantly worried that I'm going to be utterly hopeless and a terrible mum. I am a broody woman missing the maternal gene!

My OH is typically brilliant and tells me I'm being silly and that I'll be an amazing mummy but I kind of feel that he HAS to say that I really want to come off the pill in a few months and NTNP but every time I think about it I feel so panicky. OH being perfectly calm is almost making it worse!

So I guess the point I'm eventually getting to is- am I completely normal? Do loads of women feel this way when thinking about doing this? Or does being scared mean that, even though I really want this, I'm no where near ready?

...and I'm done!

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