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TamaraMichelle - April 5th, 2011 5:29 PM

I am on here looking for information, advice, and maybe some comfort.

I am 26yrs old, have been with my husband for almost 9 years with no luck of conceiving. I have seen a fertility Dr and have tried a couple different treatments, with no luck. Right now we are taking a break due to starting a new business, but plan on going back.

From reading a few posts on here....most say that the majority with PCOS are overweight and that is the first thing they are advised to change....I'm actually the opposite, I am small and am trying to gain weight. I am now looking into trying a few natural remedies until going back to the Dr. Does anyone have any advise as to where I should start??

Also, does anyone know something that helps with the pain of cysts on the overies? It does hurt all the time, but every now and then when my husband and I have intercourse, I get severe pain, like someone is stabbing me! It's horrible. I had went into a Dr because of the pain and that is how I found out I had cysts, but they just told me it is common and that I don't have anything to worry about, just to keep an eye on them....but that doesn't help me with the pain I go through because of them.

Enough rambling for now. I am really just looking to maybe connect with some other females in my same situation....so maybe I won't feel so alone and worthless.


TamaraMichelle - April 5th, 2011 5:33 PM

I've wanted nothing more than to be a mother. I am one of those females that knew at an early age that being a mother is what I was meant to do. I absolutly LOVE kids and it kills me each and everytime someone around me becomes pregnant. Even my younger sister gave my parents their first grandchild....that about killed me.

Having these issues have taken me to a dark place in my life, but most people don't realize to what extent. They know my issues, but cannot fully understand what it means or how it makes me feel. I just want a child with my best frind/husband. :o(


Leine - April 12th, 2011 8:51 AM

Hello Tamara,

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. But you know very well that you are not alone. Thousands of women, maybe even in the millions, are not able to conceive. Countless couples are childless no matter what they try. It is heart-breaking believe you me. :(

Don't give up. Take a break from time to time. Sometimes the worry, anxiety or the pressure of TTC breaks even the hardest of us. That will have adverse affects. Psychological condition, I think that is as important as being medically and physically fit to have a child.

I've read several stories of couples trying for several years until finally they've made it! Yes. Those stores are true. So it is not over until you give up.

I wish you all the happiness and good luck to you and your husband. Remember, you are not alone so don't feel so down and worthless.

Regards,
Leine B.T.


TamaraMichelle - April 13th, 2011 5:05 AM

Thank You Leine for those kind words. I know I am not alone in my situation, but I don't know anyone personally, so in a way that makes me feel alone. No one can understand how I feel when they call and tell me they are pregnant. I am happy for them, yet as soon as I am alone I break down and cry.
We have taken breaks thinking that maybe we were trying to hard, but nothing ever happened. We are actually on a break now, due to starting a new business. That is why I am looking into other options I can try myself without spending a fortune going to the doctors.
Invitro(SP?) is mt last resort, the thought of the procedures I have heard and read about make me nervous, but if it doesn't happen naturally for us, I have no other option.
I have had the hormone treatments....tried keeping track of periods to try and figure out my ovulation window, but my cycles are never on track....all stems from having the depo shot when I was in my teens. I know that because before I started that I was a regular cycle person....every since I stopped it they have been out of wack.
But again, thank you SO much for the kind words....that is what I am needing right now....people I can talk to who actually truely understand what I am going through.:o)
-Tamara


NadineChoo - April 13th, 2011 7:37 AM

Just like other health conditions where opinions of different doctors are sought, I believe it is the same for fertility specialists in my opinion. Doctors will have varying POVs on the matter. They may not always be in agreement. Have you already sought the opinions of more than 2 specialists? Sometimes, it just takes the right one to make it happen. I would look into specialists who have had high success rate in cases where depo shots are said to have been the "cause." =D


Anita - April 13th, 2011 9:25 AM

Hi Tamara, are you open to the idea of adoption? :)


TamaraMichelle - April 13th, 2011 4:19 PM

Nadine- Yes, I have worked with 2 different Dr's so far. The first one I wasn't happy with....he seemed to care more about me forking out money than my actual situation, also never remembered who I was or what we had done...the Dr I recently worked with I love....it's an actual fertility clinic that deals in nothing but people with fertility issues. Within the first meeting I knew more than the entire time I was at the other Dr. :o)

Anita- I am, yes....I have an Aunt that is a foster parent and have many cousins that are adopted. But, my husband isn't...he says he wants a child that is OURS...


Maya - August 12th, 2011 1:42 AM

Hi TamaraMichelle,

I was just wondering how you were doing. I read through all of your messages and I wanted to reply because I am in the same situation. I was diagnosed with PCOS a couple years ago. I'm 31 years old, and have been trying to conceive for 10 months now, with the help of a fertility specialist, medication (clomid), and IUI. I am hoping that perhaps you have good news to share, perhaps you have had some success? I know what you mean about feeling so sad when friends call to say they are pregnant. The same thing happens to me. I am also in a dark place because of the lack of success. It is hard to stay positive at times.

Hope you have good news to share! :)


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