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Glynda - May 5th, 2010 5:04 PM

hello there. my husband and i have been married for 10 years and have been wanting a child since then. we are now both 35 and still childless. My husband is ashamed to go to the fertility doctor because he has what he calls an "impairment". Pls give me suggestions on how I can convince him.

Thanks


Jay-Z - May 6th, 2010 2:46 AM

For many husbands, who have such problems as "impairment", this is really an issue they don't want to talk about. For them, being incapable of producing a child, is really depressing. So, as a wife, I think the best thing you should do is to have a heart to hearth talk with him and tell him how you really want to have a child in the family. And there's really nothing to be ashamed of because many have the same infertility problems like him and the experts helped them find ways to solve their problems.


kathleen - May 6th, 2010 2:51 AM

Issues like this needs to be discussed with the experts. I think if he really loves you and that he want you to have a child, then convincing him would not be a problem.


Seth - May 6th, 2010 4:35 PM

Husbands tend to be "macho" so I understand.

If your husband wants kids in the future I think this is motivation enough. This is something the both of you should talk about since its a sensitive topic and you did mention that its been 10 years so in my opinion, you guys need professional help plus you guys are not getting any younger.


Elaine - May 7th, 2010 8:51 AM

Just be open with your feelings on how you want to have a child. And the only thing that this could happen is for him to see a doctor to have the necessary check-up. Pour out your heart's sentiments and if he truly loves you, he will forget everything and grant your request just to make you happy.


jobelle - May 13th, 2010 10:51 AM

I think all you need is to have a heart to heart talk with your husband about such sensitive issue like this. But, i think you also need to accept his decisions.


Melie-Lou - May 14th, 2010 2:30 AM

Of course, your husband may not admit to himself that he is incapable to reproduce. It hurts his ego. But for your loving explanation coupled with flirtation as an understanding wife, he may concede to your wants.


AnthonyLee - May 14th, 2010 2:44 AM

As a married couple, it is a gift to have a child, it is a dream of each couple to have a child of their own. If it is a long time of waiting, then it is a need to consult to a doctor specializing of this kind, but for your husband's attitude, convincing is added to the problem. How about if you search a movie which shown the same case as yours, then have this view at the time when both of you are having a relaxing time.


letberry27 - February 8th, 2011 12:01 AM

issues like this really needs to have a serious kind of talk. i'm not an expert by the way, but try to beg him that as couple it is most fulfilling to have a child in your family, talk to him in a very nice and humble way and let him understand this. explain to him that being impaired doesn't mean he is not a macho man. that for you he is the most macho in the world. if this doesn't work, i think you must talk to an expert.


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