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SK8 - October 31st, 2010 3:33 AM

What are good coping mechanisms for couples that fail even after ART?


Michael_ArchAngel - October 31st, 2010 3:43 PM

My wife and I talk about our feelings (good and bad) no matter what. I think open communication is a good way of coping. This way you are always in tune with each other.


scales - October 31st, 2010 4:52 PM

I agree with Michael. Also both you and your partner need to be strong physically, emotionally and spiritually as well.


SmartAlex - November 1st, 2010 3:04 AM

Just be strong and be there for each other. Understand that both of you will feel frustrated especially if it takes a long time to get pregnant. Hope is always there.


ImABabyMama - November 1st, 2010 4:16 AM

We just support and listen to each other.

Also it is important that you know your limits. A baby does not make a marriage. It is just a bonus.


SK8 - November 1st, 2010 4:43 PM

Thanks for the answers!

When your hubby wants a baby so much but the wife can't provide, it is very frustrating. Sometimes this is strong grounds for him to consider divorce. I think a lot of couples have gone their separate ways because of this very reason. Don't you think?

But I agree, a baby does not make a marriage.


hansene - November 2nd, 2010 5:55 AM

My cousin was diagnosed with something that supposedly won't make her pregnant without treatment. She was sexually active during her teen and younger 20s without using contraception or pills whatsoever. Didn't get pregnant at all. Until she moved to the middle east, met an Arab dude who got her pregnant. That time she was already past her 30s. I think 31. She was sOoo happy! It's all she ever wanted.


M4nDY - January 29th, 2011 5:13 PM

in an idealistic world, marriage comes first before children. if a couple can't have their own, there are other ways to have children. both partners just have to understand each other and make sure that they stick through the problem. they have each other to comfort and that should help with the coping.


woman_R - February 5th, 2011 5:10 PM

this is frustrating actually, acceptance and hope is a coping mechanism for me. talk to each other but never ever lose hope. everything happens for a reason and just don't stop praying and trusting our God.

best regards ;)


jo_m@n - February 5th, 2011 6:35 PM

i agree to woman_R. talk to each other and as a man i'll be trying to show my wife adn to myself to be strong and not to lose even a single hope. hope is very important.


starstruck - February 6th, 2011 4:00 PM

Hope and trust in the Lord are the best mechanism i remembered after i experienced this very difficult fact to accept.


Anita - February 6th, 2011 4:15 PM

just dont' give up and lose hope. Talk to each other and jsut enjoy both of you the moment. Relax and find ways to get busy like involvement to any organization.


vev_webb - February 7th, 2011 10:43 AM

i know this is depressing, but pls. think positively. this can help... :0


kol_meMai - February 7th, 2011 10:47 AM

everything happens for a reason.jsut don't lose hope,have courage adn think positive


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