this is ours too. it's been 12 years since our son was born and I am now 35 and we are trying for a baby. Its quite frustrating but we are handling it OK. Although we are trying really hard we understand that because of age, it might not happen.

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I have an office mate who desperately wants to have a second baby because their first born is already 7 years of age. But unfortunately, there's really no luck..

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This is the usual problems with parents who already have one or more child but want to wait in adding more kids to the brood. Raising kids can be expensive so its understandable and responsible that you would want to wait.

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I think its more important to be prepared emotionally and financially. I too understand the need of most women to find a career and to be self supporting. Raising a kid is a lifelong career and we women need all the help we can get.

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My sister has this too and is trying to conceive for a second time. they would like to add a little girl to their 10 year old son. My sister is 40 today and is undergoing IVF treatments.

Me, i have infertility issues too but we have been assured that it is not genetic, more like an age issue as we both married late. :)

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I think we must face the reality, if we can not be able to have a fertility at the second time around, don't lose hope just allow the things to happen. Let it be done with a faith in our heart.

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most women have secondary infertility. you get married, raise a family and then when your child is grown you realize that you want another one.

My mom had kids in sets. She married at 18 and had two kids successively. 10 years later she had me and my brother successively too. but she was young when she started on her first batch!

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My sister has this. She had two kids when she was in her early 20's and would like to add now that she is 36.

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Actually we already have a 17 year old. We had him when we were both 22. Now, we want to add to our family so we have secondary infertility...

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Why it took you too long to decide to add another one? Don't you not expect some kind of secondary infertility may happen if you decide to add another child a bit too late?

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Yes, I think it's because secondary infertility occurs when you decide to have too long period of family planning. Taking too much of birth control pills..it's side effect is the secondary infertility.

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