Becoming a Surrogate Mother
If you are a woman who is considering becoming a surrogate mother then there’s a lot that you’ll need to consider. This is of course not a decision that you can make on a whim and a lot of thought and soul searching needs to go into your decision making. Just because you’re technically not becoming a mother doesn’t mean that you don’t have to give any thought to what happens beyond the day you give birth.
Can You Let Go?
The first thing that you really need to think about if you’re considering becoming a surrogate mother is not the nine months that you will be carrying the baby, but rather what happens after that nine months. Letting go of a baby that you’ve grown inside you is not easy. That baby which will have been a part of you for so long will not be yours once it’s all said and done. Do you feel absolutely certain that you’ll be able to let go when it’s time? Feeling the baby grow inside of you and even its first kick can make you feel a very special bond to the baby—one that you won’t be able to continue once the baby has been born and your job is up. This can be extremely difficult and not something that just any woman can handle. If you’re considering surrogacy then thinking about this first and realistically is crucial before going any further.
Are You Ready for Pregnancy?
Along with being emotionally ready to carry a baby that is not yours, you also need to be sure that you are physically ready for the ever-important job of surrogacy. Being a surrogate mother doesn’t make you exempt from all of the unpleasant symptoms and ailments that are a part of being pregnant; morning sickness, weight gain, bloating, stretch marks...the list goes on. Having your body go through so many changes and enduring some discomfort isn’t easy for any woman, let alone one who is not going to be a mother to the baby. You need to think about the changes that your body is in for as well as everything that goes along with that, such as lifestyle changes and the impact that being a surrogate mother will have on your work. If you’re single, then carrying someone’s baby means earlier nights, getting more rest and inevitably, less socializing. And, working as a surrogate mother means having to take off time for doctor’s appointments, ultrasounds and possibly even several sick days to deal with nausea, back pain and other symptoms of pregnancy.
Weighing the Pros and Cons
You’ll need to weigh the pros and cons of being a surrogate mother before making the commitment because it is a HUGE sacrifice on your part. If you are in a place in your life where the decision is right, then being a surrogate and making a couple’s dreams of parenthood come true can prove just as rewarding as giving birth to a baby and raising it. Just be sure that you’ve considered all the factors first.